Iain mentions in a couple of his podcasts that aside from being stabbed a woman is most likely to be killed in her home by her partner. Although she wasn’t killed, this type of violence has also happened recently to one of my closest friends (not a martial artist) and it has led me to thinking that I am not adequately addressing this in the classes I teach. I get that prevention is always better and identifying warning signs is always the most effective but if it has escalated to physical violence in domestic abuse then I would be interested in other people’s input around what they teach regarding this.
From a self-protection point of view if you are attacked at home then my initial thoughts would be to pre-empt, flee and then phone the police. However, if there are children involved especially if this is taking place at night and they are in bed then just leaving them with someone who was about to assault you isn’t necessarily appropriate and in some cases could be dangerous. Also I’m not even sure what the police would do, especially if it was both of the people involved’s residence. “I thought he was about to hit me so I whacked him and ran off” isn’t a guarantee the other party would be arrested.
What do people teach / advise for the physical side in this type of situation?