having recently listened to Iain's newest podcast - A Return to Practicality: Karate & Aikido, it brought up some questions that I was intending to ask for quite some time.
For those of you who practice self-protection, and specifically de-escalation skills - how do you deal with the acting aspect necessary for the practitioners who embodies the criminals/enemies.
1. How do you overcome the initial embarrassment by practitioners who aren't used to acting or performing of any sort? How do you keep the training serious enough, so that maybe practitioners even get a little feeling of adrenaline and stress, and not make it "funny" or embarrassing?
2. How do the criminals/enemies know what to say in order to intimidate or bring the defender to capitulate, or even make the scenario realistic? Most practitioners aren't exposed to this kind of verbal/intimidating violence. Maybe when they were in high school (for male practitioners) some of them may have caught some sort of juvenile version of it, but most grown-ups aren't familiar with this kind of violence. How do you handle it and keep it realistic?
3. When and if you manage to pass those two hurdles - how do the criminal/enemy knows when the defender did a good enough job, and they should "let him off the hook" or when they should escalate even more or even initiate the attack? Obviously, sometimes they should attack even if the defender did a good job, but I'm referring to the basics of the training. How do you measure the level of skill demonstrated by the defenders in de-escalating the situation? I'm more interested in the verbal aspect, because the physical aspect (maintaining the appropriate distance and angle, use of "fence") is clearer to me.
4. If you manage to pass those three difficult hurdles - how do you make the training more challenging? How do you make it more aggressive? How do you make the scenarios more difficult to de-escalate? What is even considered more challenging in this kind of training?
Thanks in advance for the replies.